On smallness and being small

I suppose for no particular reason, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about just how small my life is. I don’t mean I have a terrible life (because I don’t…..MANY people have lives 500% worse than mine has EVER been). I guess I just mean that my life, in general is very small. My job is perfectly OK……and what I do is important, but it doesn’t have a sense of IMMEDIATE impact on the lives of hundreds of people. I have a few friends, and that’s great and I appreciate them….I really do. But, y’know……few people ever really seek out my opinion or my input.

Some years ago, I ran a medium size business (got out of it….too stressful for me)…..I sometimes remember those times, and think about how people would stop chatting with others and turn and listen to what I had to say. Now, one might argue: ‘Here’s a guy who obviously got too much emotionally from his work, or at least tried to.’ and those people might be right. I don’t know…..I’m just feeling a little mopey, I guess. I’ll snap out of it, I always do.


Life in the Now

{Although a bit stale, here is a bit from a NY times article published March 15th of last year}


Article’s Title: ‘The Shame Culture’ (speaking of ‘life’ via the internet these days)

“……….people are extremely anxious that their group might be condemned or denigrated. They demand instant respect and recognition for their group. They feel some moral wrong has been perpetrated when their group has been disrespected, and react with the most violent intensity.

Crouch describes how video gamers viciously went after journalists, mostly women, who had criticized the misogyny of their games. Campus controversies get so hot so fast because even a minor slight to a group is perceived as a basic identity threat.

The ultimate sin today, Crouch argues, is to criticize a group, especially on moral grounds. Talk of good and bad has to defer to talk about respect and recognition. Crouch writes, “Talk of right and wrong is troubling when it is accompanied by seeming indifference to the experience of shame that accompanies judgments of ‘immorality.’”


I should point out that a writer with the NY Times was touting (in a positive light) an article that was ultimately published in Christianity Today……heck, that’s worth noting alone!

I find it funny (if not bizarre) that there are no more ‘fringe’ groups anymore!  Every group/clique/cluster-of-minimally-meaningful-weirdos has now been legitimized via the digital ocean.



Very first REAL post!

The first REAL post. Number one. Numero uno. This is the beginning of something great, I just know it. Don’t Ask Me I’m No Expert will become something great (oh crap, I already said great…some editor I am). I’ve wanted to publish a zine for well over a decade now and am only just now getting to it. But, this isn’t a ‘zine….it’s a blog. Yes, I read lots of blogs out there on the interweb.
So, what about the structure and focus of this blog? Let’s start out with the “won’ts”:

1. You’ll never read poetry in this blog. Never. Not the funny kind. Not the good kind. No kind of any kind. None. Zilch. Nada. Me, I’ve got nothing against poetry…..it just won’t be found here. Fiction? Oh yes….plenty of that, but no poetry. ………and I (probably) mean that.

2. No erotica/eroticism. Just not going there. Doesn’t mean you’ll never see some grown-up themes…..I’m just not doing a smut-mag.

3. (Probably) no extreme political rants, particularly about certain candidates. I may weigh in on some socio-political things, but you won’t hear, “This guy would be a good president ’cause he’s the most presidential guy who might ever preside over anything requiring precise presiding over.” Just not my style.

Other than that, everything is fair game and mean, everything. Things I think. Things I like. Things I don’t.
Art, fiction, news, hobbies, odd little past-times (like, maybe, collecting weird stuff and the people who collect it — and why — and how doing it has helped/hurt their lives), psychological issues, religion, America, family, work, industry, biographical stuff, interviews, recipes, craft projects, magic tricks, home improvement, organization techniques, nature, tourism/travel, social issues, philosophy, performing arts, things to do when you’re bored, humor, writing (and reading, of course), school/college and the entire American education system as a whole, the environment, TV and movies, music, marriage and all manner of other weird or eccentric little oddities that I find fit within the spirit of this periodical (I like that word……”blog” sounds like the name of a dead neanderthal).

Submissions from others are always welcome, but I make no formal guarantees regarding publishing dates/schedules/turn-around time. Submit anything you want (but a short little query would first be a nice gesture, wouldn’t it? – – – and no extreme violence/gore/nudity without a little forewarning) to:
buddpaul@hotmail.com……..fear not, I’ve had that e-mail address for about 300 years and it ain’t going away!

Let the games begin!